Hey everybody. I don’t have a new article ready this week so I’m just posting a short quote with pics.
This is something I happened to read earlier this week which I thought was cool and thought you might enjoy it. It’s from an essay entitled “Monogamy, Polygamy, and True Marriage”.
Conventional sexual desire is inherently promiscuous.
It is moved by worldly attractiveness, reinforced by romantic illusions, and both frustrated and stimulated by the factual limitations of bodily pleasure and mortality itself.
Marriage is not properly a means either for satisfying or confining the power of sexual desire. True marriage is well instructed in advance. It is founded on the understanding that transcends the power of the desiring self.
Such marriage is founded on relational self-granting, or love, in Communion with Living Divine Reality. It is not founded on the satisfaction of desire – or even the frustration of desire. It is founded on Divine ecstasy, self-transcendence, and higher human responsibility.
The usual man cannot understand true marriage, because he is motivated by desire. He is inherently promiscuous and self-possessed.1 All of his associations with sex are problematic and ultimately disturbed. Both his monogamy and his polygamy are closets of mortal things. He would indulge his desiring with many others, but he fears to do so, or he dares to do so. In any case, he is in doubt of Life.
Only those who are awake in God may also engage in true and free marriage, which is self-transcending and sex-transcending…2
(In case anyone is wondering, I pick stuff for this blog that helps me personally. Whether it helps anyone else is something I don’t know until I read your comments.)
. . .
. . .
- What do you think of this claim: “The usual man or woman cannot understand true marriage”?
- How many people do you know who are happily married?
- Where does “Divine ecstasy” fit into all this?
- When we put lots of energy into adulterous pursuits – flirting with other men’s wives, trying desperately to be “liked” by the opposite sex on Facebook – is something about this kind of pathetic?
- Religious people have often recommended putting God first, and your marriage partner second, otherwise they say you’re making your spouse into an idol. I used to think this was primitive, childish and unnecessary, but that was before I had much experience with relationships, lol. What’s your take? When we spend years or decades worshipping sex in and of itself, what kind of fruit does it bear?
- “Self-possessed” in this context means a person is possessed by a false sense of “self”. Usually “self-possessed” means that a person is in control the situation, hip, self-sufficient, all that kind of thing. But who or what is the “self” that we are possessed by, even in moments of calm? I dunno but it’s an interesting question. ↩
- This is from an essay by Adi Da Samraj (1939-2008), published in “Love of the Two-Armed Form” by the Dawn Horse Press of Clearlake, California, in 1978. There was more to this quote about polygamy but I cut it short to keep things simple. :) However, you’re free to post a comment about polygamy below the article. ↩
- Image is a screenshot from some documentary about Motley Crue, courtesy of the daily messenger. Apparently these folks are in a hot tub limo driving down Sunset Blvd. ↩
- “Where are they now?” I was curious so I looked this gentleman up. According to wikipedia, Vince Neil was married and divorced four times, given a restraining order after beating up an ex-girlfriend, and was arrested after beating up a “sex worker”. So… probably not someone for me to emulate. ↩